How to Develop Self Control

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At this point, the case should be made that self-control and self-composure is a must have ability/skill for a person seeking to be the master of him/herself.  If you aim to achieve your heart’s desire, you will be tested over and over again.  If you respond in ways that take you further away from your destination, you might find your goal getting further and further out of reach. Below are a list of techniques that you can use to help you master yourself. It is not an exhaustive list but one that have helped thousands of folks who have travel the same road as you gain control of themselves and over the lives.  You might conduct additional research and find other methods, if the ones below are insufficient for the job.

The Laughing Technique

The laughing technique is on that has been use by a number of successful folks to help them mitigate the impact of certain triggers. When you feel like you are about to lose it, when you notice that your defensiveness is rising, you should:

  1. Take a time out;
  2. Get away to where you will not be disturbed by anyone
  3. Force yourself to laugh for at least 5 minutes
  4. If you can get away, then force yourself to smile as talk.

The Mantra Technique

Other technique that might help you come back to the present whenever you find yourself getting heated is to repeat positive mantra. This manta should be repeated over and over and over, until the feeling subsides. This mantra can say something like:

“I am the master of my thought, emotions, response, behavior, tongue and life. I will be vigilant and watch for the triggers.  I and I alone have the power to choose my response. I am gaining more control over myself with each passing second, minute, hour and day.”

The Rubber Band Technique

Start wearing a rubber band around your wrist. Every time, you find your being triggered, everything you find yourself engaging behaviors that are signs of a loss of self-control, you should snap the rubber band against your wrist. A painful reminder to remain in the present and in full control of yourself.

Self-Control has been a topic of conversation in the world of personal and self-development for years. It is frequently topic in religion, military, education and parenting.  Just read some of the quotes by famous people in history.  “I have learned that I really do have discipline, self-control, and patience. But they were given to me as a seed, and it’s up to me to choose to develop them”, -Joyce Meyer.  “Self-control is one mark of a mature person; it applies to control of language, physical treatment of others, and the appetites of the body” –Joseph B Wirthlin.  “By constant self-discipline and self-control you can develop greatness of character” –Grenville Kleiser.

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