The Refusal to Give Up or Give In!

Webster’s online dictionary defines persistence as “firm or obstinate continuance in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition”. Obstinate is defined as stubbornly refusing to change one opinion or chosen course of action despite attempts to persuade one to do so., not yielding.   The trait of persistence has been called many different names like:  perseverance, tenacity, staying power, steadfastness, pertinacity, stick-to-it-ivenss. Whatever word you use, it is simply the “refusal to give up or give in to that which you have committed to doing”.

Benefits:

The ultimate benefit of not giving up, of not quitting is in getting what you what. When you persist, when you persevere, you fulfill your purpose, live your dream, and achieve your goals. Additionally, you develop a will-power that can withstand the harshest of conditions, come out on top of any situation, and defy any circumstances.

Costs:

The cost of giving up before you reach your destination, achieve your goal is huge. There is a 100% certainty that you will never reach your destination if you stop. You also begin to develop the habit of giving up; this could lead to developing a weakness in character and ultimately the destructive of your life whether literally or figuratively.

Timing:

It is stated that most people don’t give up at the start of their journey.   A sad majority of folks give up about midway through the journey because they don’t that the willpower or the resources to continue. Others give up, right before they would have reached the goal. Some refer to this as the “last mile”.  This is probably the most tragic of all. Because this person is the one who would have given up the most,  travel the further, dedicated his live,  and sacrificed  the most.

If one is going to give up, it is best to give up at the start of the journey. Because once the journey begins, a lot of sacrifices will have to be made; a lot of pain will have to been endured, a lot of hardships weather. If you are not committed to seeing it through to the end, then all of your efforts will have been for naught.

How to:

There are probably many of books and experts that have developed formulas for developing this treasure and must have trait. Below is an outline of a very effective technique that has been used for centuries by folks like Booker T. Washington, Gandhi,  Nelson Mandala,  Abraham Lincoln , Harriet Tubman, to name a few.

  1. Develop the right perspective. That it, mentally and emotionally embrace the fact the road ahead will not be easy. If it was easy, everyone will would be traveling it and reaching the destination. Accept and expect that set-backs, missteps, mistakes, failures, will happen.  Expect and accept that obstacles, roadblocks, hurdles, detours, distractions will appear many times though out your quest, often when you least expect it. Expect and accept that doors that might be open to others might be close to you. Of if they were open at one point, they might now be closed.
  2. Resolve that no matter what, you simply will not give up. Resolve that you will simply outlast any adverse situation; to give up is to admit defeat! And you will not be defeated.
  3. If you give up, do so at the beginning. Once you start, do not give in or give up. If you need to take a rest break and recoup, if you need to slow down, fine. Just don’t stop,
  4. If something you are doing is not working, don’t quit; Try something different. If there is a roadblock in our way, don’t get deterred. Find a way around it, over it, under it, though it or find another path that will still get you to your destination. When you are confronted with nos, thank them and continue moving forward until you find a yes.

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